Message To You ~Shannon Knight
If you are not feeling good about yourself or if your self-esteem is weak, this message is for you. Maybe your life isn’t going in the direction you hope it would be. If you feel like you were meant to do more with your life and there’s this faint voice in the back of your mind that keeps telling you so, maybe it’s time to listen. Do you have a dream you have been holding on to but are afraid to take that first step? Perhaps there is something much more severe going on in your life that is prohibiting you from getting where you want to be. Are you asking yourself how did I end up like this?
You are not alone; we’ve all had experience with positive and negative messages at school, work and growing up. They were part of what shaped us into who we are today. Some of us have a harder time than others removing the negative ones from our memory because they latched on early in childhood. When we were young, we were vulnerable and what was said to us had an impact on our self-esteem. It may have prevented some of us from living life to its fullest potential. It’s not too late; we can change anything we want to with messages to yourself.
It may be time for you to get that beautiful picture of you out when you were a child. It could change your life! One self-esteem exercise that you can do which requires only a photo of you when you were a baby or small child. Find one you like and tape it to your mirror. If you don’t have one that young, just find the youngest picture you have. If you are determined about getting rid of old negative messages and smothering them with new positive ones, then go ahead and be the master of this project and make several small copies and put them in places you frequent like your car, your refrigerator or your desk at work. What you put in, you definitely will get out of this one! Tape a baby picture on your ceiling if you’re feeling ambitious, so it’s the first thing you see when you get up in the morning as a reminder.
After all these years, this baby picture you are looking at is still you! That’s right, take a thoughtful look at that beautiful, cute, baby face, now give it a kiss! Get ready to love you, all over again. Tell her or him gently but spoken out loud, with love what she deserves and what kind of life you want for her. Let her know how deserving she is of love and respect. “You deserve nothing but the best.” Explain, give details of what that experience is going to be for her when she gets the best. Talk to her daily about her purpose in life and all her high potential. Tell her how wonderfully unique she is, that there is no one like her, and she is exquisite! Love her, be patient with her as she learns to accept this love.
Speak out all the positive things you see in him, all his attributes, qualities and gifts. Tell him how smart, loving and talented he is. Name all his qualities. Tell her the positive truths of her beautiful soul and skills that are valuable. Love him and allow him to cry as he realizes it is okay. Comfort him and tell him that it’s okay for boys to cry and that this vulnerability is a strength.
Do not defend any of the criticisms of your past that were laid upon you carelessly. Those words don’t deserve any more attention, for example, saying “You are not stupid,” gives stupidity the power. Instead, speak positively, saying, “You are so bright and intelligent!”. You want the power to be given to the positive words, “ bright and intelligent”. Eventually, all the positive messages will become your truth. When we say anything positive or negative out loud, it has a physical impact us.
The mind is incredible, and you will be doing something so purposefully beautiful and deserving for yourself that there can truly only be one outcome; A life that you are choosing for yourself, the best life.
~Shannon Knight March 3, 2011